Fear Of Job Interviews
our heart is beating step is to change the way that
faster than usual, your you view the interview. This is
hands feel clammy, your not an appointment with the
mouth is so dry it feels like you dentist who may inflict pain. It
have cotton inside – and your is a conversation with another
supposed to feel confident. Are person. What is the worst thing
you going to an interview or a that can happen as a result of
torture session? The answer is – the interview? You won’t get the
“it’s all in your perspective.” job, which may not have been the
right job for you anyway.
Ideally you would sit poised
thumbing through a magazine, Secondly, this is a conversation
feeling relaxed as you wait your - a two-way process. You will be
turn to have a conversation with interviewing them as much as they
the interviewer for the company. are interviewing you. Is there a
Think about it - what do you have good fit here – both ways? What
to lose here? What’s the worst looks good on paper may not be
thing that can happen? What if what it appears – for either
you don’t get this job - is the party. It will be part of your
world going to stop turning? I job during the interview to
realize of course, that bills investigate whether this a good
must be paid, but you are taking place for you, and whether you
the wrong approach if you are want to invest a significant part
going to come across as desperate of your life here. When you are
– “Please, please, hire me.” not checking them out and what
Interviewers smell fear. they have to offer you are
missing an opportunity that you
A change in thinking may regret later.
The first, and most important Calming techniques
marriage proposal after every
One of the best techniques to date?” Well, you probably aren’t
handle stress is through going to get a job offer after
breathing. Take deliberate, every interview.
shallow breaths. Take air in For every job you apply for there
through the nostrils and exhale are more than likely three to
quietly through your mouth. This four equally qualified candidates
is a technique that should be in line for the same job. Whether
practiced as a relaxation you stand out from “the crowd”
technique before the interview so will depend on your preparation
that your body gets used to and ability to show confidence in
slowing down the breathing yourself – believing that you are
process and relaxing. the “best candidate for this
job.” How can you possibly sell
Relaxation techniques such as anyone anything if you don’t
yoga, and meditation classes, are believe in it yourself?
recommended for anyone who has an
extreme case of “interview Preparation will make you feel
fright.” The interview can cause more confident and less anxious.
panic attacks if the fear is Can you imagine giving a
strong enough. Pre-conditioning performance without some practice
will do wonders for this type of and preparation? “Winging” the
anxiety. interview in today’s market is a
big mistake.
Preparation before the interview
Fear of Rejection
These are competitive times and
you should steel yourself to You may have had a number of
expect some rejection. Think interviews with no offer. You may
about it this way, “Did you get a be feeling defeated, and it’s
beginning to affect your-self credit for going out there and
esteem. putting yourself on the line,
even though it is painful for
This would be true of anyone. But you. Give yourself permission to
it is a mistake to take it not get job offers. Believe that
personally. There are so many an offer will come through when
factors that could be affecting it is the right offer – the right
the offer that it is impossible fit for the company and for you.
to say what is happening. There Take the control back and reject
may be internal candidates, the feeling of fear.
relatives promised jobs, a
competitor who is a perfect match When you have done everything to
for the job, a lack of chemistry prepare for the interview, and
between you and the new boss, a you are satisfied that you can
mismatch in salary needs, etc., present yourself in the best
etc. light possible, the next step is
for you to let it go. You can
Let it go learn something from each
interview. Learn to enjoy meeting
Give yourself credit for getting new people and having new
an interview – only a small experiences. Who knows you may
percentage of people get this far even grow to like interviewing.
in the process. Give yourself
About the Author:
Carole Martin is a celebrated author, trainer, and mentor. Carole can give you interviewing tips like no one else can. Get a copy of her FREE 9-part "Interview Success Tips" report by visiting Carole on the web at http://www.interviewcoach.com
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